Another couple ties the knot this weekend, and I’m not the bridegroom…
This week alone I’ve been asked several times about when I’m going to pursue marriage. Not sure why these questions come in bunches, but I guess with all my peers and others in my age group (20-30) entering holy matrimony, it’s to be expected for a single guy like me.
My one and only relationship with a significant other ended over five years ago, and I have to admit that the two-year experience played a significant role in my own disinterest in ‘pursuing’ romance in the manner others seem to be. For me, the struggle is not quite there at the same level, as it seems to be with others my age. It may be because I’ve been thinking more along the lines of ‘letting the Lord find her for me’, while I go about trying to serve Him in my singleness. It has been on my mind a little bit recently, especially when friends around me are continuing to marry (and, now, start having children), but by God’s grace those thoughts do not consume me as much as people seem to think they do. But sometimes I lie in bed at night wondering what she will be like, and I find myself thanking the Lord for allowing me to eagerly anticipate, as I know that she will be an undeserved gift from God…
I am glad that the Lord has kept me single these last few years, as it has given me an opportunity to refocus on Him, especially in my career path, which is slowly evolving before me. And situations around me seem to be shaping in such a way that it may not be too long before the Lord provides a wonderful partner with whom I can share my life serving the Lord; only time will tell. And that time will be according to God’s timetable. In the mean time, there’s plenty of other happenings and duties to keep me occupied. So, for those who wonder why I’m ‘taking so long’, there you have it. And for those struggling with being single (and I know this sounds like a catch phrase), think about how you can serve Him now in your singleness. Patience – alas, it is one of the fruits of the Spirit, is it not?